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suggested books, and other resources
Helping Young People During Grief or Tragedy
The following resource list was begun in February 2012 following the tragic shootings in nearby Chardon, Ohio
and revised following the Newtown, CT tragedy and UCC campus (2015). It includes information regarding suicide further down the page.
Please email Cindee (firstname.lastname@example.org) any additional resources to be recommended.
The NFCYM has compiled resources after other school shootings:
Violence to youth:
St. Mary's Press offers free resources on the website as well:
Session you can use:
> When tragedy challenges Faith
Catholic Relief Services (CRS) Resource Center
There are activities, webinars, videos and handouts available on various topics.
This links to the Earthquake in Nepal page, but ou will find a "Search" button to see other large events.
This outline follows the "Pray - Learn - Act- Give" formula:
U.S.C.C.B. Resources related to Violence:
"Teens and Grief"
Books and Resources on Talking about Death with Children and Youth
Often when a public figure dies, children and adolescents will have questions arise about death. The following are books and resources that may be available at your local library and could be used to stimulate conversation. It is always recommended that parents be notified when children/ youth are viewing a movie. Parents should be informed before discussions of grief and loss as they have the potential of evoking strong emotions. (Note: This is a listing of suggestions I received a couple of years ago from a psychologist - I must admit I have not read or reviewed all the resources listed -- please let me know if you find any should be removed, or if you recommend others be added.)
Parent and Catechist Resources:
Lost and Found: A Kid’s Book for Living through Loss. M. Gellman. Morrow Junior, 1999.
Keys to Helping Children Deal with Death and Grief. J. Johnson. Barrons Educational Series, 1999.
Living With an Empty Chair: A Guide Through Grief. R. Temes. New Horizon Press, 1992.
Books on Grief and Loss Pre- K through First Grade:
(I include these as I have found that sometimes sharing a children's story,
or asking the teens to share one, can open up dialogue in a different way, depending on the group of teens.)
Aarvy Aaardvark finds hope. CELO Press, 1988 unpaged.
Badger’s Parting Gifts. S. Varley. Lothrop Lee and Shephard, 1984.
The Fall of Freddie the Leaf. L. Buscaglia. C.B. Slack, 1982.
The Velveteen Rabbit. M Williams. Knopf, 1983.
Waterbugs and Dragonflies. D. Stickney. 1982
Movies and Books on Grief and Loss for Children in Grades 2-8:
The Lion King – Rated G – Violence not recommended for younger children
Charlotte’s Web – Rated G
A Begonia for Mrs. Applebaum. Paul Zindel. Starfire. Reissue 1990.
The Three Birds: A Story of Love and Grief Shared. N. Dodge. 1986.
When Someone You Love Dies. W. Coleman. Augsburg Fortress, 1994.
Grief and Loss Resources for Children in Grades 9 – 12:
Corrina, Corrina – PG thematic materials
Beaches – PG 13
Marvin’s Room – PG13 – Brief Language
My Life – PG 13 mature subject matter
(Although all movies should be pre-viewed before showing children or young people,
PG-13 movies may require using only specific segments in the classroom/ educational setting)
Flip-Flop Girl, K. Paterson. Dutton, 1994.
I Heard the Owl Call My Name. Margaret Craven. Laurel Leaf, 1993
Little Women. L Alcott. Courage Books, reprint 1995.
The Red Badge of Courage. S. Crane. Bantam. 1985.
American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry http://www.aacap.org provides resources for parents and teens
National Association of School Psychologists: Helping Children Cope with Loss Death and Grief at http://www.nasponline.org/NEAT/griefwar.html
Griefnet. http://www.griefnet.org and Internet community of more than 30 Email support groups and two web sites, offering a moderated chat room for children and their parents, lists of books and other library information memorials, newsletters and more.
Helping Children Cope With Death, The Dougy Center for Grieving Children
www.dougy.org. A national Support center for grieving children, teens and families.
This site contains many articles on children and loss:
Keep praying for peace:
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury,pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life. Amen
Pastoral Care General
Recommended by Kristin Witte, Archdiocese of Baltimore
Brumberg, Joan Jacobs, The Body Project: An Intimate History of American Girls
Dykstra, Robert C., Counseling Troubled Youth
Gerkin, Charles, An Introduction to Pastoral Care
Rowatt, Jr., G. Wade, Pastoral Care with
Adolescents in Crisis
National Institute of Mental Health - Free brochures and information on mental health issues including depression and suicide
The American Association of Suicidology - 202-237-2280 - One of the premier suicide research organizations, the AAS has a wide range of resources on all aspects of suicide. Their web page also contains many links and online resources about suicide. http://www.suicidology.org/
American Federation of Suicide Prevention - To order AFSP's Teen Suicide Prevention Kit free of charge, call 1-888-333-AFSP, ext. 14, or email email@example.com. http://www.afsp.org/
Fighting Human Trafficking
Netflix series "13 Reasons Why" Resources
In April, 2017, Netflix added a 14 episode show (approximately an hour long each) about a teenage girl who leaves 13 audio recorded cassette tapes listing reasons she committed suicide.
The show is graphic and includes a NUMBER of issues that some teens are dealing with, but in a compressed timeframe (as a viewer, as the retrospective is more than a year, but the story line jumps from present to past events and back as each story unfolds on the tapes, it seems compressed for us.)
As resources come available, look here for links.
"13 Reasons Why" Netflix Series: Considerations for Educators:
(from the National Association of School Psychologists)
Thirteen Reasons Why Talking Points
(from Suicide Awareness Voices for Education, SAVE)
13 Reasons Why resource page
(from Conversations on the Fringe (CotF) - an organization seeking creative and innovative ways to bridge the gap between marginalized youth and those entities (particularly families, schools and churches) that serve youth in contemporary society. They offer an episode by episode guide)
“13 Reasons Why” and 13 Important Conversations; Suicide Prevention and Compassion for Struggling Teens
(article from Catholic Link)
From the USCCB,
prayers for those who mourn:
Prayers for Mourners
For those who mourn the death of a child: